We talk about demonstrating active compassion in the face of systemic injustice.
Our prompt came from a friend of the show and was paraphrased from a verbal conversation:
I really like your show, but I have a hard time figuring out how to apply your ideas. I work in an industry where I see active misogyny all the time, but even being a small business owner, I don’t feel like I have any power to help the people around me. If I refuse to work with a supplier or bank because they treat women like shit, they won’t even notice. I’m not doing well enough to hire more than a temp employee, and I put my own livelihood at risk if I call people out. How do I keep from feeling powerless and how do I act compassionately instead of just feeling angry about what I see?
We discuss proxy arguments, where people are having a disagreement in place of a wider ideological argument.
In this episode, we look at the current state of the Interpersonal Skills Stack Exchange. Why are people getting suspended left and right? Why does IPS seem to have more problems than other similar sites? What can they do to heal?
We also talk about James Comey’s A Higher Loyalty and the new revival of Queer Eye.
How can you accept your feelings and still make intentional choices when you’re in an unpleasant situation?
Our prompt comes from a listener:
Help me not hate my puppy.
My teenage son called me in a panic recently because our puppy had bitten him on the finger. It turned out that it was a bit of an overreaction, as it was a scratch (the puppy is only four pounds). But I still find myself really disliking the dog. I know he’s a dog and a puppy. But in addition to biting my son, he also barks, which jars my nerves.
I don’t like that I have all of these negative feelings about a baby animal who really can’t help these behaviors. But here we are.